From the bustling streets of New York City to the serene beauty of Victoria, BC, Jill Payne's journey took unexpected turns. Her candid account of navigating single motherhood and managing her emotions and energy during the pandemic and beyond sheds light on the transformative impact of self-regulation on mood and energy. You'll love Jill's update on how to "Be a Freaking Dime" even when life is messy!

"Contrast inspires a new desire. When you have something you don't like, be grateful because it's showing you what you don't want so you can better formulate what you do want." - Jill Payne

Key Moments:

• 00:00:00 - Introduction to Managing Energy
• 00:01:11 - Challenges of Energy Management as a New Mother
• 00:08:27 - The Realities of Parenting and Energy Management
• 00:11:35 - Understanding Energy Levels and Capacity
• 00:13:44 - Managing Emotions and Energy
• 00:16:22 - Building Capacity for Better Responses
• 00:19:28 - The Power of Movement and Morning Routine
• 00:22:53 - Importance of Body in Shifting Thoughts and Actions
• 00:25:27 - Getting Into What's in Front of You
• 00:27:08 - Understanding Personality and Energy Management
• 00:36:24 - Handling Detail Negative Energy
• 00:39:25 - Establishing Boundaries
• 00:41:01 - The Phenomenon of Resonance
• 00:41:50 - Attracting Similar Energy
• 00:44:12 - Choosing Focus and Vision
• 00:47:45 - Shifting Focus and Managing Grief
• 00:54:58 - Embracing Change and Taking Risks
• 00:55:08 - Using Contrast to Inspire Desire

"What I see for you is holding up the possibility for what you think could be possible for your kids, your spouse. What I see for you is happiness and joy." - Jill Payne

Resources and Next Steps:

• Get the book Be a Dime by Jill Payne to access exclusive QR code content in the back of the book and use the QR code to access an online dashboard with weekly videos, daily audios, a full workbook, and a journal, typically available only to Jill's one-on-one coaching clients.
• Connect with Jill Payne on her website or through Instagram.
• Join Vibrant Soul, a community to heal, transform, and expand your soul with like-minded friends at jenriday.com/vibrantsoul.
• Apply the principle "What I see for you" to create a vision for your loved ones and inspire positive change.
• Embrace the concept that contrast inspires a new desire, allowing you to focus on what you do want rather than what you don't want.

Dr. Laura Froyen joins me again to chat about the power of taking time for yourself. As moms and caregivers, it's easy to get caught up in taking care of everyone else's needs. But what about our own? 

Laura shares her perspective on why retreats like my annual Vibrant Happy Women Retreat are so rejuvenating. Getting away allows us to get out of the deep end and stop treading water - to rest, reconnect with ourselves, broaden our views, and realign our inner compass. 

In our conversation, Laura reflects on how attending retreats has helped her rediscover her own identity beyond motherhood. We also talk about why time away is healthy for partnerships, allowing spouses and kids to step up at home. 

I hope Laura's wisdom inspires you to prioritize self-care, whether through travel or simple moments of solitude. As she reminds us - we need time to just be, free from others' demands. It's essential for living vibrantly and authentically. 

And if you want to join us at this year's retreat in Mexico Feb 7-11th, visit JenRiday.com/retreat 

"It's okay to remember what it's like to be a whole and independent human being where no one else needs anything from you." - Jen Riday

Key Moments:

• [00:02:11] Losing ourselves in motherhood.
• [00:06:03] Getting out of the deep end.
• [00:11:30] Identity outside of parenthood.
• [00:14:10] Finding comfort in solitude.
• [00:20:42] Family dynamics and boundaries.
• [00:24:07] Taking time for oneself.
• [00:27:35] Sacred retreat for women.
• [00:32:07] Traveling solo and self-discovery.
• [00:36:47] Increasing enjoyment of parenting.

"We're more than just caregivers and wives and mothers and all the things we are. We're humans, really." - Laura Froyen

Resources:

• Join the Vibrant Happy Women Retreat, which offers a transformative experience and provides a container of time to listen to your thoughts and connect with women from different walks of life.
• Connect with Dr. Laura Froyen on her website or through the Balanced Parent Podcast and learn from her soulful, intuitive widsom about purposeful parenting.
• Explore Vibrant Soul, a place to heal, transform, and expand your soul with like-minded friends by visiting JenRiday.com/vibrantsoul.
• Take responsibility for your own happiness and explore adding more alone time to your day-to-day life and beyond.