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Have you ever asked yourself, "Is this it? Is THIS my life?"
If you have a nagging feeling you have something "more" to do with your life, then this Happy Bit is for you. Learn how having a consistent morning routine will make ALL the difference in figuring out your life's purpose and following that path with confidence (rather than striving to be Maria Von Trapp, Mary Poppins, or any number of other "ideal" but unrealistic women).
Do you ever catch yourself filled with poisonous thoughts about your worthiness or capability as a person, mom or employee? In this episode of Vibrant Happy Women Jennifer Rothschild shares how bad moments don't have to mean bad days filled with endless negativity and how she overcomes her own negative self talk by cleaning out her "thought closet."
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And I share some words of gratitude and praise for ALL the amazing, good things you're doing in life. Thank you for being a rockstar!
Laura Doyle struggled for years in her marriage until she finally learned the art of letting go of expectations. Learn how she did, how it helped her husband like being around her again, and how Laura is happier than she’s ever been in her relationship. You can explore more at www.lauradoyle.org
Nuggets of Wisdom from Laura:
"I stopped trying to control my husband and instead, I focused on my own happiness. And that, in turn improved what he sees. I suffered so much in my marriage. I tried everything I could think of, went to marriage counselling and none of that worked for me. And now I know what actually works to make marriage magical again."
"Restoring respect in your relationship in one of the intimacy skills. Respect is like oxygen for husbands. That is how important it is to them. And when they feel respected, they feel loved."
"Intimacy is not just in the bedroom. It is the interactions, the tenders, the funnies, sometimes it’s those interactions you wouldn’t have with anyone else in the whole world. The physical intimacy is the one thing that differentiates the romance from any other relationship you have in the world. Intimacy is when I feel desired. It’s when I feel that he is seeking my company and when he is sharing with me openly because he feels there is emotional safety. That’s when I know the intimacy is high."
"The only person you can ever control is yourself. And then when I did change, my husband responded to me so differently. It was so much better, like ten times better. For me, it was actually good news."
"Only happy people can have happy relationships. It’s unspeakably wonderful to feel so loved every single day. It gives me a lot of inner strength and I say that not to brag but just to say: This is what’s possible for all women. Cause all husbands respond so beautifully to being respected and they want to make their wives happy."
Some of Laura's Favorite Things:
"Most women feel it’s awful until they do it. And that habit is apologizing to my husband when I am disrespectful. I apologize for being disrespectful… I honor my husband’s thinking.
Express your desires in a way that inspires. To let him hear what I wanted instead of complaining. Instead of saying: John, this place is a disaster area! I would say: John, I would love a clean kitchen."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "My Zester. It adds so much flavor."
Rachael's Favorite Books:
"Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray"
Laura's Happiness Formula:
"Asking myself these two questions. How do I feel? What do I want? Desire is the seat of feminine power. Communicate with everyone around me in a way that’s honoring of me but also showing up as a delight and not a bear. Not a martyr, and not a nag, not a porcupine but someone who can smile because you are all filled up."
A Challenge from Laura:
"Get Cherished.com 5 days challenge. Everyday for five days, I will send you an email and do an experiment that’s gonna give you an unfair advantage and making your relationship vibrant and easy. If it works for you, keep it."
Resources
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
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Have you ever had a problem that needed to be solved, but you just couldn't quite figure out the solution? Enter the THINK LIST. This tool will help you find solutions to those annoying problems that seem to have no answer, like how to get up earlier in the morning, how to improve a relationship with a teenager, or any other moment in life when you just need an inspired or creative solution.
Have you ever felt the deep inner calling of your soul to explore a new path, but your fears meant you ignored that voice inside? Rachael Pickworth of Woman on Purpose had always tried to deny her yearning to rise up, honor her truth and express herself authentically, but ultimately the pain of denying her inner truth led to her life and business crashing around her in what she calls a ‘dark night of the soul’.
Rachael reached a point where she could no longer deny her higher calling and went through a realignment process where she addressed the big questions we often try to avoid such as “who am I?” and “what am I here to do?” In this episode Rachael shares her journey, her biggest learnings (including spiritual discoveries and harnessing Law of Attraction) and how they have changed the course of her life and her work in the world.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Rachael:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
"You are a child of God. And in my language, you know that word God - you are a child of the universe or spirit or source energy. Your playing small does not serve the world. We are all meant to shine as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us."
"I eventually discovered coaching around 2001. Trained in that area and I’ve been coaching ever since. The journey of course did not stop there. But what it did was it created a platform for me to make a difference that I wanted to make. I support people to find clarity of purpose and express their purpose in the world. "
"Let’s take the language out of it. Let’s remove any conversation around the law of attraction, the word spiritual. Let’s remove that for just a moment. And let’s just dive into feeling good. So I would say that anyone who is in a place of feeling disconnected, that the opportunities here is to do things that lift your energy and support you to feel good. And really making that your focus. The choice to feel good."
"Thoughts are so powerful. We have to speak as if what we want is coming. It’s not about looking at our existing reality and what is around us now because what we say around us is a reflection of what our past vibration is, it’s a manifestation of our historical thoughts, feelings and vibrations."
Some of Rachael's Favorite Things:
"Reading my favorite books. Listening to great music, favorite music. Do what feels good. Expect miracles to come. Eat what feels good. Trust that it will flow. Raise your vibrations.
I write what I feel writing. Writing the vision of my future. I write what makes me feel incredible. I’m imagining myself there, experiencing it. Raising my vibrations and my point of attraction. Putting my focus there so that it can then show up for me. It can then be created and will then unfold. So that’s what I mean by scripting. It’s writing the picture of what’s coming."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Husband on the Barbecue"
Rachael's Favorite Books:
"Ask and it is Given by Esther Hicks"
"Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsch"
"Law of Attraction 101"
Best advice received: "My mom has been the best example. She was so inspiring to decide to leave my dad in her twenties and start a biz and move to Melbourne with 2 kids and set up a biz. GUTSY. Spiritual. Addicted to work, stressed… 4x cancer. Demonstrated how important it is to look after ourselves. Busy is not a badge of honor."
Rachael's Happiness Formula:
"Sleep 8 hours or more + eat well + drink water + morning practice + evening practice (alignment work) + getting out of my own way and liberating myself and being patient with myself. Self Love. Being really True to myself. Being prepared to go my own way and not trim my wings to fit into what our world thinks is normal."
A Challenge from Rachael:
"Give yourself one month to put yourself first - to really put your needs first - what makes you happy and DO IT and do LOTS of it. Don’t self sacrifice and put yourself last. Be happy regardless of circumstances. Plant that energy of “I’m happy”. Watch what unfolds. Morning and evening practice. Focus on high vibes."
Resources
Follow Rachael Pickworth on Instagram
Ask and it is Given by Esther Hicks
Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsch
Growing up on a farm taught me the value of hard work; however, I’ve worried life in suburbia hasn’t instilled the same work ethic in my kids. Life has converged to help me focus on work ethic, and I share our experience laboring on Labor Day as a family.
PJ Jonas is a business owner, goat-wrangler, entrepreneur, and mother. After getting goats to provide healthy milk for her eight children, she decided to put some excess milk into a batch of handmade soap. That decision was the beginning of Goat Milk Stuff, a growing goat milk products business that includes Goat Milk Soaps,cheeses, candies, fudge, gelato and more! PJ lives in Indiana with her husband, Jim and eight children. The entire family along with 6 full time employees work hard to promote the goodness of goat milk. You can explore more at www.GoatMilkStuff.com
Nuggets of Wisdom from PJ:
"Thomas Jefferson - I’m a great believer in luck and the harder I work the more I have of it."
"All that hard work, ultimately, leads to the success that we are looking for."
"By teaching our children how to do things, to cook, to do the dishes, to do the laundry, that frees a lot of my time and leaves me more time to spend having more fun times with them. When everybody works, all the work ultimately gets finished for the day."
"When we started Goat Milk Stuff, everything had to become more focused. Starting a business from the very beginning, I had to involve my children in all the business aspects. It’s all something that we all had to work side by side."
"You start small, you are not going to change something big overnight. That’s where a lot of us Go wrong. We have too drastic of a change too quickly. Pick something. Start with something small. Start with cooking. Pick a meal that you can teach your children to make. Don’t try and do it all radically because if we change too fast, it just falls apart. It’s all hard but it’s worth the effort."
Some of PJ's Favorite Things:
"SLEEP is the priority. I go to bed early. Don’t have time to go to a gym. I incorporate exercise into my day: 10-20 squats in the bathroom and 2 pushups against the sink, calf raises while washing dishes, 1 legged toothbrushing."
Favorite kitchen gadget: Cutco Knives
Niyc's Favorite Books: "Margin by Richard Swenson. Having space in your life. Time, physical energy, finances, and emotional energy. Keep space. That space between being overwhelmed and being able to keep up with where you’re at. Just keep that little bit of space, life will be so much more enjoyable."
Best advice received: "Remember what’s important… You have to look 20 years down the road. Is what I’m doing contributing to that? I want my kids to be best friends and have successful marriages and families of their own and put others’ needs in front of their own. "
PJ's Happiness Formula:
"Sleep + eating well + doing nothing with my family. That would make me happy. Just together being a family. Telling stories, laughing -for me that’s what it’s all about."
A Challenge from PJ:
"Let go of something and create more margin in your life. Say no to something and free up more time. Figure out something that you can let go of. "
Resources
Free Bar of Soap for Vibrant Happy Women Listeners
Vibrant Happy Women Facebook Group