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Do you ever catch yourself filled with poisonous thoughts about your worthiness or capability as a person, mom or employee? In this episode of Vibrant Happy Women Jennifer Rothschild shares how bad moments don't have to mean bad days filled with endless negativity and how she overcomes her own negative self talk by cleaning out her "thought closet."
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And I share some words of gratitude and praise for ALL the amazing, good things you're doing in life. Thank you for being a rockstar!
Laura Doyle struggled for years in her marriage until she finally learned the art of letting go of expectations. Learn how she did, how it helped her husband like being around her again, and how Laura is happier than she’s ever been in her relationship. You can explore more at www.lauradoyle.org
Nuggets of Wisdom from Laura:
"I stopped trying to control my husband and instead, I focused on my own happiness. And that, in turn improved what he sees. I suffered so much in my marriage. I tried everything I could think of, went to marriage counselling and none of that worked for me. And now I know what actually works to make marriage magical again."
"Restoring respect in your relationship in one of the intimacy skills. Respect is like oxygen for husbands. That is how important it is to them. And when they feel respected, they feel loved."
"Intimacy is not just in the bedroom. It is the interactions, the tenders, the funnies, sometimes it’s those interactions you wouldn’t have with anyone else in the whole world. The physical intimacy is the one thing that differentiates the romance from any other relationship you have in the world. Intimacy is when I feel desired. It’s when I feel that he is seeking my company and when he is sharing with me openly because he feels there is emotional safety. That’s when I know the intimacy is high."
"The only person you can ever control is yourself. And then when I did change, my husband responded to me so differently. It was so much better, like ten times better. For me, it was actually good news."
"Only happy people can have happy relationships. It’s unspeakably wonderful to feel so loved every single day. It gives me a lot of inner strength and I say that not to brag but just to say: This is what’s possible for all women. Cause all husbands respond so beautifully to being respected and they want to make their wives happy."
Some of Laura's Favorite Things:
"Most women feel it’s awful until they do it. And that habit is apologizing to my husband when I am disrespectful. I apologize for being disrespectful… I honor my husband’s thinking.
Express your desires in a way that inspires. To let him hear what I wanted instead of complaining. Instead of saying: John, this place is a disaster area! I would say: John, I would love a clean kitchen."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "My Zester. It adds so much flavor."
Rachael's Favorite Books:
"Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray"
Laura's Happiness Formula:
"Asking myself these two questions. How do I feel? What do I want? Desire is the seat of feminine power. Communicate with everyone around me in a way that’s honoring of me but also showing up as a delight and not a bear. Not a martyr, and not a nag, not a porcupine but someone who can smile because you are all filled up."
A Challenge from Laura:
"Get Cherished.com 5 days challenge. Everyday for five days, I will send you an email and do an experiment that’s gonna give you an unfair advantage and making your relationship vibrant and easy. If it works for you, keep it."
Resources
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
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Have you ever had a problem that needed to be solved, but you just couldn't quite figure out the solution? Enter the THINK LIST. This tool will help you find solutions to those annoying problems that seem to have no answer, like how to get up earlier in the morning, how to improve a relationship with a teenager, or any other moment in life when you just need an inspired or creative solution.
Have you ever felt the deep inner calling of your soul to explore a new path, but your fears meant you ignored that voice inside? Rachael Pickworth of Woman on Purpose had always tried to deny her yearning to rise up, honor her truth and express herself authentically, but ultimately the pain of denying her inner truth led to her life and business crashing around her in what she calls a ‘dark night of the soul’.
Rachael reached a point where she could no longer deny her higher calling and went through a realignment process where she addressed the big questions we often try to avoid such as “who am I?” and “what am I here to do?” In this episode Rachael shares her journey, her biggest learnings (including spiritual discoveries and harnessing Law of Attraction) and how they have changed the course of her life and her work in the world.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Rachael:
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." - Marianne Williamson
"You are a child of God. And in my language, you know that word God - you are a child of the universe or spirit or source energy. Your playing small does not serve the world. We are all meant to shine as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us."
"I eventually discovered coaching around 2001. Trained in that area and I’ve been coaching ever since. The journey of course did not stop there. But what it did was it created a platform for me to make a difference that I wanted to make. I support people to find clarity of purpose and express their purpose in the world. "
"Let’s take the language out of it. Let’s remove any conversation around the law of attraction, the word spiritual. Let’s remove that for just a moment. And let’s just dive into feeling good. So I would say that anyone who is in a place of feeling disconnected, that the opportunities here is to do things that lift your energy and support you to feel good. And really making that your focus. The choice to feel good."
"Thoughts are so powerful. We have to speak as if what we want is coming. It’s not about looking at our existing reality and what is around us now because what we say around us is a reflection of what our past vibration is, it’s a manifestation of our historical thoughts, feelings and vibrations."
Some of Rachael's Favorite Things:
"Reading my favorite books. Listening to great music, favorite music. Do what feels good. Expect miracles to come. Eat what feels good. Trust that it will flow. Raise your vibrations.
I write what I feel writing. Writing the vision of my future. I write what makes me feel incredible. I’m imagining myself there, experiencing it. Raising my vibrations and my point of attraction. Putting my focus there so that it can then show up for me. It can then be created and will then unfold. So that’s what I mean by scripting. It’s writing the picture of what’s coming."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Husband on the Barbecue"
Rachael's Favorite Books:
"Ask and it is Given by Esther Hicks"
"Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsch"
"Law of Attraction 101"
Best advice received: "My mom has been the best example. She was so inspiring to decide to leave my dad in her twenties and start a biz and move to Melbourne with 2 kids and set up a biz. GUTSY. Spiritual. Addicted to work, stressed… 4x cancer. Demonstrated how important it is to look after ourselves. Busy is not a badge of honor."
Rachael's Happiness Formula:
"Sleep 8 hours or more + eat well + drink water + morning practice + evening practice (alignment work) + getting out of my own way and liberating myself and being patient with myself. Self Love. Being really True to myself. Being prepared to go my own way and not trim my wings to fit into what our world thinks is normal."
A Challenge from Rachael:
"Give yourself one month to put yourself first - to really put your needs first - what makes you happy and DO IT and do LOTS of it. Don’t self sacrifice and put yourself last. Be happy regardless of circumstances. Plant that energy of “I’m happy”. Watch what unfolds. Morning and evening practice. Focus on high vibes."
Resources
Follow Rachael Pickworth on Instagram
Ask and it is Given by Esther Hicks
Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsch
Growing up on a farm taught me the value of hard work; however, I’ve worried life in suburbia hasn’t instilled the same work ethic in my kids. Life has converged to help me focus on work ethic, and I share our experience laboring on Labor Day as a family.
PJ Jonas is a business owner, goat-wrangler, entrepreneur, and mother. After getting goats to provide healthy milk for her eight children, she decided to put some excess milk into a batch of handmade soap. That decision was the beginning of Goat Milk Stuff, a growing goat milk products business that includes Goat Milk Soaps,cheeses, candies, fudge, gelato and more! PJ lives in Indiana with her husband, Jim and eight children. The entire family along with 6 full time employees work hard to promote the goodness of goat milk. You can explore more at www.GoatMilkStuff.com
Nuggets of Wisdom from PJ:
"Thomas Jefferson - I’m a great believer in luck and the harder I work the more I have of it."
"All that hard work, ultimately, leads to the success that we are looking for."
"By teaching our children how to do things, to cook, to do the dishes, to do the laundry, that frees a lot of my time and leaves me more time to spend having more fun times with them. When everybody works, all the work ultimately gets finished for the day."
"When we started Goat Milk Stuff, everything had to become more focused. Starting a business from the very beginning, I had to involve my children in all the business aspects. It’s all something that we all had to work side by side."
"You start small, you are not going to change something big overnight. That’s where a lot of us Go wrong. We have too drastic of a change too quickly. Pick something. Start with something small. Start with cooking. Pick a meal that you can teach your children to make. Don’t try and do it all radically because if we change too fast, it just falls apart. It’s all hard but it’s worth the effort."
Some of PJ's Favorite Things:
"SLEEP is the priority. I go to bed early. Don’t have time to go to a gym. I incorporate exercise into my day: 10-20 squats in the bathroom and 2 pushups against the sink, calf raises while washing dishes, 1 legged toothbrushing."
Favorite kitchen gadget: Cutco Knives
Niyc's Favorite Books: "Margin by Richard Swenson. Having space in your life. Time, physical energy, finances, and emotional energy. Keep space. That space between being overwhelmed and being able to keep up with where you’re at. Just keep that little bit of space, life will be so much more enjoyable."
Best advice received: "Remember what’s important… You have to look 20 years down the road. Is what I’m doing contributing to that? I want my kids to be best friends and have successful marriages and families of their own and put others’ needs in front of their own. "
PJ's Happiness Formula:
"Sleep + eating well + doing nothing with my family. That would make me happy. Just together being a family. Telling stories, laughing -for me that’s what it’s all about."
A Challenge from PJ:
"Let go of something and create more margin in your life. Say no to something and free up more time. Figure out something that you can let go of. "
Resources
Free Bar of Soap for Vibrant Happy Women Listeners
Vibrant Happy Women Facebook Group
Did you ever stop to consider that authentic living requires listening to your intuition? Learn the best way to tap into your authentic voice and why it's CRITICAL that we not only stop "shoulding" all over ourselves, but especially all over other women. It's time to celebrate the authentic (and diverse) voice of every single woman's effort to live authentically. And to assume we're all doing the best we can.
Several years ago Niyc Pidgeon found herself drowning in negativity and fear after being raped. With the encouragement of a therapist and a hefty dose of self exploration, Niyc found her way out of the darkness and into a place of gratitude, awareness and growth. Now she shares her story on stages around the world to help empower other women to find their own way out of whatever darkness they might be experiencing in their lives.
As a Positive Psychologist and Success Coach, Niyc is on a mission to help a million women change their lives using Positive Psychology by the year 2020. She recently won Young Entrepreneur of the Year in the UK, is currently living in Los Angeles, and proudly travels the world speaking, coaching, and helping women create more joy, personal power, and unstoppable success within themselves and their businesses. Niyc’s first book Now Is Your Chance, is a 30-Day Guide To Living Your Happiest Life Using Positive Psychology, published with the world’s largest mind body and spirit publisher Hay House, and available for pre order Now. You can explore more at www.niycpidgeon.com
Nuggets of Wisdom from Niyc:
"Beautiful flowers blossom in adversity."
"My intention is that I bring together the science side of things and the spirituality side of things, as well as my personal experience and my professional expertise to really give the readers something that they can practically do everyday."
"Meditation is something that allowed me to connect with myself and the highest version of myself."
"I managed to find gratitude for the process and managed to find the gratitude for the fact that, one day, I knew that I would be able to share this story and help other people. Even the bad things that happen to us, we have to find gratitude on some level."
"Happiness is about raising your awareness, showing up in everything you do."
Some of Niyc's Favorite Things:
"My morning ritual/nurturing practice: gratitude rampage, moving into this place of gratitude and abundance, meditation, moving my body & energy around to feel empowered, visualization (standing on stage, seeing flowers), written affirmations, speak out loud my goal… abracadabra… I create what I speak. That which I speak, I create. It’s all about everything we say and bringing that thing into our reality. That is a practice that has given me so much."
Favorite kitchen gadget: Garlic Press
Niyc's Favorite Books: "Mind Gym, which is a collection of short, succinct tips about how you can develop a stronger mindset."
Best advice received: "To be able to wake up in the morning and just be yourself."
Niyc's Happiness Formula:
"Happiness is a combination of gratitude, awareness and growth -being grateful for what you have, heightening your awareness and also ensuring that everyday you are doing something that allows you to feel accomplished. And you actually give yourself credit for the things you do as well."
A Challenge from Niyc:
"Every night before bed do you 'DONE list' and reflect on the service you've given."
Resources
Niyc on Facebook and Instagram
Necker Island with Sir Richard Branson
Vibrant Happy Women Facebook Group
Have you ever woken up exhausted, grumpy or unready to face the day? In this Happy Bit I give you 3 strategies that will boost your mood, energy and focus on those really tough mornings.
Mary Hyatt was drowning in unhappiness after marrying very young and having no idea who she was; after years of numbing her unhappiness with food, Mary found herself 70 pounds overweight and needing to make a change. She decided to embark on a journey to find herself and to stop playing small; in the process she let go of the weight and the unhealthy marriage and today Mary is a strong advocate of living FULLY ALIVE through being authentic, loving yourself and loving your body.
Mary Hyatt is on a quest to feel alive and to live a life full of gratitude, joy, authenticity, and abundance in body, mind and soul. Mary believes that every person has the ability to create the life that they love. She lives in the heart of Nashville and her days are spent juggling the roles of holistic lifestyle advocate as a Presidential Diamond wellness advocate with do TERRA essential oils, and personal life and business coach. She helps her clients wake up, find their voice and become fully alive. You can join Mary every Wednesday at 1 PM CST on her Facebook LIVE show where she dives into raw topics and helps her audience fall back in love with themselves and believe in their potential. You can explore more at www.maryhyatt.com
Nuggets of Wisdom from Mary:
“Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace." ~Frederick Buechner
"I love that the emphasis on the touching, smelling, and really getting into the holy and hidden heart of it. That is it."
"I can remember thinking to myself, there has to be more to life than this. Surely, being completely asleep for life, being numb, just almost sleepwalking through life - Surely there has to be something else that would make life worth more living."
Some of Mary's Favorite Things:
"Staying teachable. I’m always asking for feedback, I’m constantly learning. The minute that I think I know it all, my career is going to be dead. I want to see always how I can make things better. I get excited to hear about new perspectives, about new ways of seeing things because ultimately, my lens is really limited. I am seeing it only through my own eyes so I think a habit would be asking for feedback and continuously learning. "
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Garlic Press"
Beth's Favorite Books: "Loveability by Robert Holden"
Best advice received: "From my mom: when anything is going wrong, 'What does this make possible?'"
Mary's Happiness Formula:
"I am happiest when I am being authentic + telling my truth + staying in the present. Part of living fully alive is experiencing life in 3D, which means that you are willing to be present for whatever is showing up in this exact moment. I give myself permission to celebrate, to be in that excitement and really stay in it, and asking myself, 'What is asking for my highest attention right now?'"
"Depression and anxiety are escaping the present. When we can find our true happiness, the ability to connect with life, just in this present moment - that truly is what we have - I better show up. I better be all here because this might be my last breath."
"Part of happiness is being able to show up for what’s happening right now. Being present truly contributes to our ability to have happiness and fulfillment."
A Challenge from Mary:
"Slow down in this moment, take a couple deep breaths, in through the nose, out through the mouth, in through the nose, out through the mouth. What is asking for my highest attention right now? What needs some loving today?"
Resources
Happy Bit: A Parenting Mantra to Create Happier Kids (and a Happier Mama)
Parents and kids seem to do a lifelong dance - at least for the first 18 years - between control and freedom. In this Happy Bit I share a parenting mantra I created that helps me focus less on control (and criticism) and more on the positives like love, warmth, humor and praise.
The Mantra:
My only parenting tools are love, hugs, warmth, humor and compliments.
Rather than always seeking the "grand gesture" or the next "big thing," Anne Bogel, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy and host of the What Should I Read Next? This podcast reminds us that small and steady steps are where the magic happens.
Anne Bogel is the creator of the popular blog Modern Mrs Darcy and the podcast What Should I Read Next?. Anne Bogel popular book lists and reading guides have established Bogel as a tastemaker among readers, authors, and publishers. Anne lives in Louisville, Kentucky with her family. Anne is also the author of Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Anne:
"There are so many things out there that we can make and create."
"Life moves on. Everything’s a stage. You have plenty of time."
"This is a stage. Everything moves in stages. Nothing lasts forever, for better or for worse."
"Something I have learned is how important timing is. That’s not just what you’re hoping to do but also when you are going to be able to do it. Life moves in stages and it won’t stay the same way forever. Things constantly change."
"I hate it when people say: “I don’t have time!”"
Some of Anne's Favorite Things:
Favorite Quote: "Emily Dickinson: 'I dwell in impossibility.' It means excitement and enthusiasm and potential. Anything is possible."
Personal Habit: "Walking the dog with no headphones… motion and movement and fresh air."
Easy meal: Mexican Beef verde from Jessica Fisher’s cookbook, Not Your Mother’s Freezer Meals: Chuck roast - chili powder and oregano - salsa verde - with guac, pico, cheese…
Favorite kitchen gadget: Lemon Squeezer
Ann’s Favorite Books: You Learn by Living by Eleanor Roosevelt
Best advice received: "Don’t underestimate the importance of small steps."
Anne's Happiness Formula:
"It’s about being peaceful, happy and light in body and spirit. And being free from anxiety of worry and understanding, love."
"A good life is fresh, solid and free, new, vibrant, grounded, safe."
A Challenge from Anne:
"Take a walk without your earbuds or sit on the porch without a book and think and just be."
Resources:
Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything
Unputdownable: 17 books I read in 24 hours or less (because they were just that good)
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Journaling can be a powerful way to see the big picture of your life, to notice the trajectory you're on and to make needed adjustments. Whether you prefer gratitude journaling, writing your goals and intentions or recording a "diary" of your day, journaling is so helpful. One of the most powerful forms of journaling is vision journaling, which is writing down what you WANT your life to look like as if it's already the REALITY. Vision journaling not only creates energy, motivation and focus, but new research would suggest it is probably building new neural pathways in your brain, making it more likely you'll choose behaviors in line with your vision and goals. In this episode I tell you exactly how to do it.
Women's and men's bodies are not the same. We try to assume men and women can lose fat int he same way, but it can be helpful to account for hormones, pregnancy, breastfeeding...all of those things that make women women. In this episode Dr. Beth Westie shares some hot fat loss and health tips just for women.
Hear how mow my friend Chris "infected" everyone with the happiness bug at a recent BBQ and how you can do the same thing and be the STARTER.
Nisha Moodley shares how happy living and making a contribution to society are tied to understanding our personal wholeness and our “Big Why.”
You are powerful beyond measure, and it's time to wake up and act accordingly- to play big and to SHINE.
Ever wished you could work less so you could live more? After an incident with her son’s childcare provider, Jocelyn Sams realized she was giving too much control of her life to other people. She and her husband Shane decided to give up teaching and create an online business so they could have the flexibility and freedom they needed to spend more time with their kids - all while working only 10-15 hours/week. In this episode Jocelyn shares exactly how they did it.
Today’s guest is Jocelyn Sams, part of the dynamic duo behind FlippedLifestyle.com. Jocelyn and her husband Shane are former school teachers. After years of bad bosses, job losses, and frustration at work, they started an online business. That business made it possible to quit their jobs, spend more time with family and earn millions in passive income online - all while working only 10-15 hours per week! Now, they are helping other families do the same by connecting with people through their Flipped Lifestyle podcast, website and inside their Flip Your Life community. Sign up for Jocelyn's free 168-hour Time Management Challenge.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Joceyln:
"We can't let other people run our lives anymore."
"He said we were going to start an online business, we were going to build passive income streams and we were going to quit our jobs. I thought he was crazy at the time, but little did I know, we would do just that."
"When you do as you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
Some of Joceyln's Favorite Things:
Personal habit: "I calendar everything."
Easy meal: Chicken Lettuce Wraps (P.F. Changs copycat)
Favorite kitchen gadget: Cuisinart Electric Teakettle
Joceyln's Favorite Books: Profit First by Mike Michalowicz
Best advice received: "Take action and make things happen."
Joceyln's Happiness Formula:
"Take control of my time + prioritize the things that are really important in life + helping others find the same type of freedom we have found."
A Challenge from Joceyln:
"Put everything on a calendar, starting with your non-negotiables like work, sleep, eating dinner, eating lunch.... Once you get those things on there, move on to the things you want to do - things like working on a business, spending more time with your children - whatever it is you want to do, calendar those in after your non-negotiables. This will help you see where you're really spending time versus where you WANT to spend time."
Resources
168-hour Time Management Challenge
Pat Flynn from Smart Passive Income
Chicken Lettuce Wraps (P.F. Changs copycat)
Profit First by Mike Michalowicz
168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think
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You've probably heard of a Vision Board before, but have you ever created a word board? In this episode I'll tell you how.
Ever wish you had less stuff? Wanting more time for what's important? In this episode Tsh Oxenreider shares her story of learning to have less “stuff” so she could have more time for living her purpose, which includes helping people and traveling.
Tsh Oxenreider is the author of several books, including her new one, At Home in the World. She's the founder of the community blog The Art of Simple and the top-ranked podcaster of The Simple Show, where she encourages big-hearted people to live simple, unconventional lives. Tsh currently lives in Austin, Texas, with her 3 kids and husband, and eats tacos several times a week. She's equally happy snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef and puttering around in her backyard.
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Nuggets of Wisdom from Tsh:
“Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.” - Parker Palmer
"Vocation: The word means calling. it's the idea of 'What you are made to do and what your life speaks.'
"Listen to your life because it says something!"
"What made [living in Turkey] truly great were a lot of these smaller life lessons and family togetherness and even the hard stuff that we pushed through to make us a better people and a better family unit."
"Home is where you know and are known. For me, that equals people. Home equals a tangible place. I think there's something important about it being in a place."
"There's this foundational idea that you have to know: your vocation is how your life speaks."
"We would rather put our money toward experiences over things."
"Simple living for me is living holistically with your life's purpose."
"Your life's purpose is your vocation."
Some of Tsh's Favorite Things:
Personal habit: " Bullet journaling. It's this way of journaling your day that just keeps your thoughts in a more organized fashion. I feel so much more in control of my time."
Easy meal: "I love chicken tortilla soup in slow cooker from Pioneer Woman." (get the recipe here)
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Ice cream maker"
Tsh's Favorite Books: "Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life by Barbara Kingsolver"
Best advice received: "Taking action and making things happen." (from Tsh's husband)
Tsh's Happiness Formula:
"Travel is a huge part of my happiness. I am more who I am whenever I spend time traveling. And yet, it is coupled with staying home a lot. It's a combination of exploring the world and being at home - embracing where I am, getting to know my neighbors, spending time in my community and getting involved. It is a blend of being a citizen of the world and a citizen of my community."
A Challenge from Tsh:
"Plan a trip on the horizon -even if that means a day trip into the closest city where you live. If you haven't planned a trip in a long time, plan something where you actually leave your house and you go do something pretty different from what you normally do. You might want to explore some small town nearby that you have always wanted to do. You might check out a museum. You might try out a new restaurant, or you could actually get on a plane and or get on a website, see what cheap flights in your area are and go do something like that. I think so much of our life is routine, which is good, but we need to appreciate that routine whenever we shake it up a bit and interact with the outside world around us."
Resources
The Art of Simple (Tsh's Website)
The Simple Show (Tsh's Podcast)
At Home in the World: Reflections on Belonging While Wandering the Globe (Tsh's Book)
Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life by Barbara Kingsolver
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Learn how to do the "I Don't Want ______" exercise to help you create a crystal clear vision of what you DO want. This is soooo important because, "Where the energy goes, the energy flows." AND "That which we focus on increases."
Growing up with dysfunction and a broken home, Salena Knight set out completely on her own at age 15, and by her early twenties owned several properties, and today she owns her own business. Salena shares some powerful thoughts on letting go of "victim thinking" and choosing the life you want. A must-listen episode!
Salena Knight is retail strategist who helps independent retailers to grow their business so they can have personal and financial freedom. She lives in Sydney Australia with her husband, daughter and rescue greyhound. In her free time she likes to build things, cook and spend time outdoors.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Salena:
"Laugh at yourself because if you don't, someone else will laugh at you. Laugh at the things that happened because it hurts more when someone laughs at you, than when you laugh about what happened to yourself."
"Just don't take everything seriously; otherwise, you'll end up getting hurt by what other people think about you."
"All I wanted to do was to prove to the world that coming from a broken family doesn't mean that you have to be a broken person."
"You have the choice to make your life-whatever it is you want to be!"
"I was determined to finish my studies and be something better!"
"It does get to the point where you have to decide who your family is and who you want to hang around."
"You can choose your family, you can choose who you want to hang around with."
"If you hang around with people who don't want to take action, who are going to suck the life out of you and deplete you, then you aren't going to strive, you won't be able to achieve those goals."
"At the end of the day, you have to look after you."
Some of Salena's Favorite Things:
Personal habit: "Constantly striving to succeed. A desire to just be better, bigger, more. I have to get outside every single day, get out with the dog at least once."
Easy meal: "Tacos. 5 batches and freeze them."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Kettle, slow cooker, and food processor."
Salena's Favorite Books: "The Dip by Seth Godin"
Best advice received: "You can do it."
Salena's Happiness Formula:
Family + Home + Laughter + Challenge
A Challenge from Salena:
"Go and evaluate your relationships and see if you have those vampire people. Who energizes you and who depletes you? What can you do about the depleters?"
Resources
Webinar by Salena - for Retailers Looking to Grow Their Customer Base Fast
Jen's Interview on Salena's Podcast (Bringing Business to Retail)
Southernbellemollymook.com (Salena's vacation rental)
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Are you striving to accomplish, achieve and accumulate? That path might not give you the happiness you crave. You'll get a whole lot closer if you take 10 minutes today and follow your feelings instead...
After trying the stay-at-home mom thing for a while, Dana realized she literally NEEDED to be an entrepreneur and thus began the Boss Mom movement. Learn how Dana balances motherhood and her online business with confidence and efficiency.
Dana Malstaff is a mother, author, business & content strategist, coach, podcaster, and blind spot reducer. Dana is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro, and the founder of Boss Mom. She serves Boss Moms who yearn for more time and less guilt when it comes to building their business and raising their family, by providing the tools they need to get more out of their content and business, without sacrificing their family goals.
Nuggets of Wisdom from Dana:
"If you want to be a true influencer, then you should speak to create other influencers. Our influence is based around creating other influencers."
"Good mom for me means playfulness and attentiveness."
"So attentiveness to me means that I'm outwardly always trying to make sure I see what my kids need and trying to fulfill that in a way that makes sense to us in our family. "
"I think you should always try to be something more than a mom."
"You are so much more than one role, and we should strive to figure out what fulfills us outside of being a parent and outside of being a wife and outside of just being a business owner."
"It's a really important lesson for your kids to learn and it's a really important lesson for you to learn that your kids aren't the center of the world too, cause it's hard not to feel that way about them sometimes."
"When you're confident about your decisions, then guilt has no place in your life."
"The reason we feel guilty is because we're not sure we're doing the right thing."
"There are a lot of ways, and a lot of those ways compiled together equal the right way for you. It has to be about collecting the puzzle pieces and fitting them together and being confident about how you're fitting them together."
"If you don't wan't to feel guilty then continually assess every single day what your overall priorities are. What is it that you're trying to achieve, and what are the big things that have to be done? Don't do your business and family separately because those are two big whole buckets."
"What's important to us right now, tomorrow, over this next 30 days, or next year? What do we care about? Which one is more important? Sometimes my business wins, and sometimes my family wins. I don't feel bad about it."
Some of Dana's Favorite Things:
Personal habit: "We eat, we hang out and play around. We engage with each other. We do some fun things with
my kids in the morning."
"The habit is the assessment of my priorities, looking at what has to get done, seeing if I can delegate that out and reminding myself that I'm losing money in my business by doing things myself all the time."
Easy meal: "Brown rice packets, chicken apple sausage, Thai peanut sauce, veggies."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "wine opener"
Danielle's Favorite Books: "The Five Love Languages" and "The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran" and "Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert"
Best advice received: "Business is people. Life is people. If you can't learn how to show people how they are loved and valued and connect with people with empathy and compassion, then you're going to be left feeling alone and sad."
Dana's Happiness Formula:
1. "Learn to recognize your happy moments."
2. "Know that others see you differently and that you're often too hard on yourself. Listen to people that tell you nice things."
3. "Recognize when you're not happy and take an assessment on what's not working and tweak it. Don't sit in unhappiness and fester there for a long time. It doesn't help anybody."
A Challenge from Dana:
"I want you to take the next three days and time map what you do in your day, where you spend your time. At the end of those 3 days, look at that time mapping. Look at what you are doing, where you are spending your time, whether you are spending your time doing things that make you happy and fulfill you and that you think are actually helping you get to where you want to go in your life - and the amount of time you are spending doing things that do not fulfill you and actually empty your cup. Get really serious about finding the kind of support you need through this community, through other communities, you know, through your friends and your networks. To pull yourself more into the time you are spending, doing the things that fill you and that you love, and it all starts by assessing what you are doing right now."
Resources
Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
Vibrant Happy Women Facebook Group
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