Jen Granneman is changing lives and making it easier for other introverts to embrace their introversion and understand how to thrive, not just survive. Learn how introverts can dive deep within their relationships and their interests.
Jenn is on a mission to let introverts everywhere know it’s okay to be who they are. She has advocated for introverts since 2013, when she created IntrovertDear.com, the popular online community and publication for introverts. For most of her life, she felt weird, different, and out of place because of her quiet ways; now, she writes about introversion because she doesn’t want other introverts to feel the way she did. Jenn lives in Minnesota with her two cats. She's the author of the book, The Secret Lives of Introverts: Inside Our Hidden World.
"Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.” (from Susan Kane, author of QUIET. This quote reminds me that my time is really my time."
"I just try to pay attention to how I’m feeling both in the moment and after something, after an event."
"For most of my life, I felt like there was something wrong with me. I bet a lot of introverts can relate to this sentiment. Growing up, the teacher said, 'You’re so quiet.' My parents prodded, 'Why don’t you talk more?' And I inevitably got what I call in my book an 'Introvert Hangover,' which is when you feel physically unwell from too much socializing. I wondered why other people could keep on going. Why could they keep going the next day or later in the night?"
"When I read the book called, The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney, I actually cried because I never felt so understood in my life. I realized there was a word for what I was, an Introvert, and it really seemed like a magic word to me. It’s so magical because it explained so many of the things that I struggled with for my entire life. Things that made me feel bad about myself. And best of all, that word meant I wasn’t alone - there were other people out there like me, other introverts. So say what you will about labeling, but that little label changed my life!"
"I read about introverts because I never want a quiet person to feel the way I did growing up. I just had this compulsion that I had to reach out to other introverts and start connecting with them, to start letting them know what I had discovered."
"Introverts prefer quiet, low-key environments. We assume they don’t like people - it’s just that they need that down time to show up. They prefer quality over quantity, to dive deep in interests and relationships, to seek meaning in all that they do - DEEP, like to write their thoughts."
"Introverted kids get less attention in a classroom. Don’t SHAME introversion."
Habit: "DOWN TIME, being alone each day. Even if it's just 10 minutes. Being alone may be the best way to truly rest, whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert. It keeps me from getting cranky. Being alone may be the best time to truly rest, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert."
Favorite Book: "The Introvert Advantage by Marti Olsen Laney" - It explores the biological base for introversion.
Favorite Kitchen Gadget: Tupperware
"Working with introversion rather than fighting against it. Having solitude. Not only to survive, but to thrive! Not comparing myself to extroverts and others. As an introvert, I have my own strengths. Speaking up for my needs because my introvert needs are valid too."
"Do something ALONE (walk, book, movie). Remember, being alone is the best way to relax, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert. If there’s one thing that we women need in this busy and modern society, it’s more rest."
Quiet by Susan Kane.
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Learn the 10 happiness-promoting reasons you need to be sharing your gifts with the world. Hint: making a contribution doesn't just make others happier... As Albert Schweitzer said, "The only truly happy people are those who have learned how to serve." But don't panic, because I'll share a couple of very easy (and non-time-consuming) ways that anybody can serve.
As a busy mom of 4 boys, Erin Chase has mastered the art of being one step ahead in the kitchen so it’s easier to prep a quick and healthy meal. Erin not only shares great meal tips, but she explains her philosophy of being fully present for everything she’s doing instead of constantly focusing on the things she still needs to do.
“What you don’t track or measure, you’re not going to improve. I track my fitness with 2 different apps… Map My Run for running and Orange Theory."
"Walking through life with grace, with joy, with contentment, with happiness, and I’ll catch myself. You have a choice. It’s not going to help anybody if you yell. Try not to. That’s where the grind happens - just making that choice and choosing the positive, not discounting all the negative emotions. You still have to feel those things, right? Process through them and work through them and start making that choice. That’s what’s beneficial to me and my family now."
"If I want to feel better, I need to be at my best to serve my family and to serve those in our online community and my business, right? And if I’m not at my best, I can’t go day to day like that. It has been a journey."
"One of my biggest goals and strategies, both for myself and for what we teach ourselves (family) is being one step ahead of your hungry family. Like, what can you be doing for the next meal? I would be thinking for the next day, getting into the habit of doing one thing and that mentally checks off things on your list. I’m always doing something for the next meal."
Morning Routine: "Generally, get the children to school. Number one priority, right? My morning routine really doesn’t happen after that. I feel like my morning routine is flipped backwards. I have my coffee every day, I take my vitamins and supplements, which helps with my arthritis. Really, my morning routine is driving my kids to school or we have a carpool every other week. When I get to the office, I’m not a believer in the 'eat that frog' concept and have a very, very blocked out calendar. If anything needs my attention right away, then I’ll do that. It’s making sure that I have the big tasks for the day in the right order and then I start plowing through everything. My morning routine isn’t that much of a morning routine. I do exercise a couple mornings a week."
Favorite Book: "Ken Follett books - series… 3rd one" and I also love personal development books and small business books.
"Being present where I am. Being present with my husband, with my boys - and not do more than I should be doing - being present in my business and helping the people in our communities."
"It’s so easy to be a multi-tasker, but I've found out that to be present in that one moment, doing that one thing, then I just exude that happiness, that grace, that joy that we want. When I do more than I should be doing, that’s where it all dissipates. For me, I think, the thing that I work hard at is just being present and that helps me to be at my best. And therefore, that’s when I feel happiest in that moment."
"Be one step ahead so you can be more present where you’re at. Understanding and feeling how that’s different and feeling how that’s easier. It’s not going to be perfect every day. Make progress and [take] small steps forward."
You can win a copy of this journal (we're giving away 5 of them) by leaving a review on iTunes, and emailing a screenshot or copy of your review to email@example.com. Or you can post your review on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #VibrantHappyWomen. The winners will be announced on November 22.
Failure is a great teacher; fear is not. Learn how to analyze your fear, stop procrastinating and take charge of your life again with an easy fear-neutralizing strategy.
Learn how to put fear in the backseat (Elizabeth Gilbert) and keep moving forward on your journey.
Being able to ask powerful questions is an important tool for good communication and happy living, and journaling is a phenomenal way to unlock the answers to those questions. Valorie Burton shows you how in this episode.
For more about Valorie, you can visit her website at www.valorieburton.com
Nuggets of Wisdom from Valorie:
"If you love what you do and you are so passionate about it, you probably would do it even if you don’t get paid for it. That’s the ideal state."
"I discovered my purpose in terms of my actual mission statement. I had an epiphany of it one day at a bookstore in 1999, that I was meant to inspire women to live more fulfilling lives, that I would do it through writing and speaking. Within a few weeks after that, I began writing my first book. I’ve written 11 books. "
"Things have unfolded not as I would have expected them, but in just the right way. I’m not sure I would have been ready for my husband. So I don’t begrudge my divorce or anything else, because it has led me to where I’m supposed to be."
"I believe wholeheartedly in journaling and writing. Writing was a part of who I am as a kid. Journaling has health benefits. It can help us work through trauma. If we can write our best possible selves in our journals, it’s a very powerful exercise. I had written what I had envisioned in the present tense. My journal was full of hope. I think that helped me a great deal in getting to a place where I was ready for what I really wanted."
"I’m a coach. What coaches do best is ask questions. It’s not about having the right answers, it’s about having the questions that help others to be able to come up with their own answers. Because I really believe everyone has their own answers. So the person who’s able to ask powerful questions, whether it’s the question that helps you negotiate better or the question that helps you connect with someone better. Being able to ask powerful questions is really an important tool for good communication."
Morning Routine: "Meditate for 5 minutes, pray, think about what I’m looking forward to during the day, asking, 'What do I get to do today?' Always eat breakfast (perhaps a breakfast burrito - spinach/eggs/cheese/burrito)."
Favorite Book: Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom"
"Being vibrant and happy is really a part of how I define success. My definition of success is harmony of purpose, resilience, and joy - knowing I’m here to inspire others."
"Just be happy right now. Stop waiting for things to unfold the way you want to. Stop holding your happiness hostage to your circumstances and make a decision right now to be happy. I made the decision to be happy. It’s a choice. It’s not always easy. It’s a whole lot better when we find reasons."
You can win a copy of this journal (we're giving away 5 of them) by leaving a review on iTunes, and emailing a screenshot or copy of your review to firstname.lastname@example.org. Or you can post your review on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram using the hashtag #VibrantHappyWomen.
If you’d like to comment on the podcast, you can leave a review on iTunes. Not only do I read every review, but positive reviews also help my happy-living message reach more women.
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When you plan your goals in 2018 - and MAP out your entire year, like many businesses do - you'll be able to accomplish WAY more of what's important to you.
Share your thoughts in an audio message to me in the "Comments" section here: jenriday.com/happy83
Many women play small, staying stuck because they don't know how to become craftsmen of their lives and create true emotional and creative abundance. In this episode guest Mastin Kipp shares the steps for women to become more empowered through cultivating emotion that is shared with the world in the form of service.
You can explore more at www.mastinkipp.com
“Not mine, but thy will be done.” ~Jesus
"I’m a recovering Christian or a Christian mystic. Truth is truth is truth."
"Religion gets in the way of trying to connect to a higher power - [Jesus] was a great spiritual teacher: being willing to die, metaphorically laying life on the line with faith to go after your purpose, paying attention to the signs that are coming, getting out of fight or flight and into a more intuitive mindset."
"Typically, following your intuition is scary. That’s how great things come to be. When you follow that path and that pattern, the things that you thought you want into your life that are way better than you can possibly imagine - you are going to get through hard times to get there, typically."
"Claim your power functional life coaching is really about accelerating results. It doesn’t need 10 years in therapy. It’s a cornucopia of how you can move forward. Claim your power is a systems approach to creating accelerated results using the process I just described."
"What I care about is that whatever you are doing with your life, it brings you emotional wealth and you are lit up by it."
"Nighttime routine is solid. Wake up at 4 or 5am. Epsom salt bath. Cardio. Meditation. Gym-lifting. Parasympathetic activities of massage, yoga, stretching…"
"I’m a creature of habit. I do everything I can to make sure my routine is on point."
Favorite Book: Headstrong by Dave Asprey
"A vibrant happy man creates safe spaces for feminine beings. Masculine and feminine are not genders - they are energies! Masculinity is not some macho thing, but some cool, calm presence that’s unwavering, it doesn’t move. To me, that’s what it means to be a vibrant and masculine man is all about: being a safe landing space. Men need to be a container when feminine energy is coming out - to listen without trying to fix and solve and to try to understand why using the phrase, 'Tell me more.'"
Goddess Hour (Hero Hour): "Find an hour and sit down and ask yourself 2 questions: 'How am I feeling?' and 'What do I need?' And then to spend the next 20 minutes to an hour giving yourself what you need."
Time Mastery for women enrollment is closing soon! Learn more here: www.timemasteryforwomen.com
I believe most women seem to be spinning and spinning and spinning - like a whirling dervish, catching random glimpses of colors and faces and stuff.
I challenge you in this episode to STOP - to be STILL and to just BE and to SEE those beautiful faces and colors and things.
The foundation of happiness starts here.
If you'd like someone to hold your hand and help you STOP, so you can declutter your life and time and put things back together in a simpler, slower, and more enjoyable pattern, join me in Time Mastery for Women where I'll take you gently, step by step, to stillness and balance and calm.
Learn more and sign up here: www.timemasteryforwomen.com
Most of us feel tired 80% of the time, but it’s not hard to change that once we learn how to metabolize negative emotions and live at a higher energetic frequency. In this episode, guest Robyn Openshaw talks about the success, flow, gratitude, love, and peace that go hand-in-hand with living a high-frequency lifestyle and how we can raise our energy and mood through diet, movement, time in nature, reframing emotion and much, much more.
Get your free copy of Robyn's book, Vibe: Unlock the Energetic Frequencies of Limitless Health, Love, and Success here: jenriday.com/vibe