Mary Hyatt was drowning in unhappiness after marrying very young and having no idea who she was; after years of numbing her unhappiness with food, Mary found herself 70 pounds overweight and needing to make a change. She decided to embark on a journey to find herself and to stop playing small; in the process she let go of the weight and the unhealthy marriage and today Mary is a strong advocate of living FULLY ALIVE through being authentic, loving yourself and loving your body.
Mary Hyatt is on a quest to feel alive and to live a life full of gratitude, joy, authenticity, and abundance in body, mind and soul. Mary believes that every person has the ability to create the life that they love. She lives in the heart of Nashville and her days are spent juggling the roles of holistic lifestyle advocate as a Presidential Diamond wellness advocate with do TERRA essential oils, and personal life and business coach. She helps her clients wake up, find their voice and become fully alive. You can join Mary every Wednesday at 1 PM CST on her Facebook LIVE show where she dives into raw topics and helps her audience fall back in love with themselves and believe in their potential. You can explore more at www.maryhyatt.com
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“Listen to your life. See it for the fathomless mystery it is. In the boredom and pain of it, no less than in the excitement and gladness: touch, taste, smell your way to the holy and hidden heart of it, because in the last analysis all moments are key moments, and life itself is grace." ~Frederick Buechner
"I love that the emphasis on the touching, smelling, and really getting into the holy and hidden heart of it. That is it."
"I can remember thinking to myself, there has to be more to life than this. Surely, being completely asleep for life, being numb, just almost sleepwalking through life - Surely there has to be something else that would make life worth more living."
"Staying teachable. I’m always asking for feedback, I’m constantly learning. The minute that I think I know it all, my career is going to be dead. I want to see always how I can make things better. I get excited to hear about new perspectives, about new ways of seeing things because ultimately, my lens is really limited. I am seeing it only through my own eyes so I think a habit would be asking for feedback and continuously learning. "
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Garlic Press"
Beth's Favorite Books: "Loveability by Robert Holden"
Best advice received: "From my mom: when anything is going wrong, 'What does this make possible?'"
"I am happiest when I am being authentic + telling my truth + staying in the present. Part of living fully alive is experiencing life in 3D, which means that you are willing to be present for whatever is showing up in this exact moment. I give myself permission to celebrate, to be in that excitement and really stay in it, and asking myself, 'What is asking for my highest attention right now?'"
"Depression and anxiety are escaping the present. When we can find our true happiness, the ability to connect with life, just in this present moment - that truly is what we have - I better show up. I better be all here because this might be my last breath."
"Part of happiness is being able to show up for what’s happening right now. Being present truly contributes to our ability to have happiness and fulfillment."
"Slow down in this moment, take a couple deep breaths, in through the nose, out through the mouth, in through the nose, out through the mouth. What is asking for my highest attention right now? What needs some loving today?"
Happy Bit: A Parenting Mantra to Create Happier Kids (and a Happier Mama)
Parents and kids seem to do a lifelong dance - at least for the first 18 years - between control and freedom. In this Happy Bit I share a parenting mantra I created that helps me focus less on control (and criticism) and more on the positives like love, warmth, humor and praise.
My only parenting tools are love, hugs, warmth, humor and compliments.
Rather than always seeking the "grand gesture" or the next "big thing," Anne Bogel, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy and host of the What Should I Read Next? podcast reminds us that small and steady steps are where the magic happens.
Anne Bogel is the creator of the popular blog Modern Mrs Darcy and the podcast What Should I Read Next?. Anne Bogel popular book lists and reading guides have established Bogel as a tastemaker among readers, authors, and publishers. Anne lives in Louisville, Kentucky with her family. Anne is also the author of Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything.
"There are so many things out there that we can make and create."
"Life moves on. Everything’s a stage. You have plenty of time."
"This is a stage. Everything moves in stages. Nothing lasts forever, for better or for worse."
"Something I have learned is how important timing is. That’s not just what you’re hoping to do but also when you are going to be able to do it. Life moves in stages and it won’t stay the same way forever. Things constantly change."
"I hate it when people say: “I don’t have time!”"
Favorite Quote: "Emily Dickinson: 'I dwell in impossibility.' It means excitement and enthusiasm and potential. Anything is possible."
Personal Habit: "Walking the dog with no headphones… motion and movement and fresh air."
Easy meal: Mexican Beef verde from Jessica Fisher’s cookbook, Not Your Mother’s Freezer Meals: Chuck roast - chili powder and oregano - salsa verde - with guac, pico, cheese…
Favorite kitchen gadget: Lemon Squeezer
Ann’s Favorite Books: You Learn by Living by Eleanor Roosevelt
Best advice received: "Don’t underestimate the importance of small steps."
"It’s about being peaceful, happy and light in body and spirit. And being free from anxiety of worry and understanding, love."
"A good life is fresh, solid and free, new, vibrant, grounded, safe."
"Take a walk without your earbuds or sit on the porch without a book and think and just be."
Journaling can be a powerful way to see the big picture of your life, to notice the trajectory you're on and to make needed adjustments. Whether you prefer gratitude journaling, writing your goals and intentions or recording a "diary" of your day, journaling is so helpful. One of the most powerful forms of journaling is vision journaling, which is writing down what you WANT your life to look like as if it's already the REALITY. Vision journaling not only creates energy, motivation and focus, but new research would suggest it is probably building new neural pathways in your brain, making it more likely you'll choose behaviors in line with your vision and goals. In this episode I tell you exactly how to do it.
Women's and men's bodies are not the same. We try to assume men and women can lose fat int he same way, but it can be helpful to account for hormones, pregnancy, breastfeeding...all of those things that make women women. In this episode Dr. Beth Westie shares some hot fat loss and health tips just for women.
Hear how mow my friend Chris "infected" everyone with the happiness bug at a recent BBQ and how you can do the same thing and be the STARTER.
Nisha Moodley shares how happy living and making a contribution to society are tied to understanding our personal wholeness and our “Big Why.”
You are powerful beyond measure, and it's time to wake up and act accordingly- to play big and to SHINE.
Ever wished you could work less so you could live more? After an incident with her son’s childcare provider, Jocelyn Sams realized she was giving too much control of her life to other people. She and her husband Shane decided to give up teaching and create an online business so they could have the flexibility and freedom they needed to spend more time with their kids - all while working only 10-15 hours/week. In this episode Jocelyn shares exactly how they did it.
Today’s guest is Jocelyn Sams, part of the dynamic duo behind FlippedLifestyle.com. Jocelyn and her husband Shane are former school teachers. After years of bad bosses, job losses, and frustration at work, they started an online business. That business made it possible to quit their jobs, spend more time with family and earn millions in passive income online - all while working only 10-15 hours per week! Now, they are helping other families do the same by connecting with people through their Flipped Lifestyle podcast, website and inside their Flip Your Life community. Sign up for Jocelyn's free 168-hour Time Management Challenge.
"We can't let other people run our lives anymore."
"He said we were going to start an online business, we were going to build passive income streams and we were going to quit our jobs. I thought he was crazy at the time, but little did I know, we would do just that."
"When you do as you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."
Personal habit: "I calendar everything."
Easy meal: Chicken Lettuce Wraps (P.F. Changs copycat)
Favorite kitchen gadget: Cuisinart Electric Teakettle
Joceyln's Favorite Books: Profit First by Mike Michalowicz
Best advice received: "Take action and make things happen."
"Take control of my time + prioritize the things that are really important in life + helping others find the same type of freedom we have found."
"Put everything on a calendar, starting with your non-negotiables like work, sleep, eating dinner, eating lunch.... Once you get those things on there, move on to the things you want to do - things like working on a business, spending more time with your children - whatever it is you want to do, calendar those in after your non-negotiables. This will help you see where you're really spending time versus where you WANT to spend time."
Profit First by Mike Michalowicz
You've probably heard of a Vision Board before, but have you ever created a word board? In this episode I'll tell you how.
Ever wish you had less stuff? Wanting more time for what's important? In this episode Tsh Oxenreider shares her story of learning to have less “stuff” so she could have more time for living her purpose, which includes helping people and traveling.
Tsh Oxenreider is the author of several books, including her new one, At Home in the World. She's the founder of the community blog The Art of Simple and the top-ranked podcaster of The Simple Show, where she encourages big-hearted people to live simple, unconventional lives. Tsh currently lives in Austin, Texas, with her 3 kids and husband, and eats tacos several times a week. She's equally happy snorkeling the Great Barrier Reef and puttering around in her backyard.
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“Before I can tell my life what I want to do with it, I must listen to my life telling me who I am.” - Parker Palmer
"Vocation: The word means calling. it's the idea of 'What you are made to do and what your life speaks.'
"Listen to your life because it says something!"
"What made [living in Turkey] truly great were a lot of these smaller life lessons and family togetherness and even the hard stuff that we pushed through to make us a better people and a better family unit."
"Home is where you know and are known. For me, that equals people. Home equals a tangible place. I think there's something important about it being in a place."
"There's this foundational idea that you have to know: your vocation is how your life speaks."
"We would rather put our money toward experiences over things."
"Simple living for me is living holistically with your life's purpose."
"Your life's purpose is your vocation."
Personal habit: " Bullet journaling. It's this way of journaling your day that just keeps your thoughts in a more organized fashion. I feel so much more in control of my time."
Easy meal: "I love chicken tortilla soup in slow cooker from Pioneer Woman." (get the recipe here)
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Ice cream maker"
Tsh's Favorite Books: "Animal, Vegetable, Miracle: A Year of Food Life by Barbara Kingsolver"
Best advice received: "Taking action and making things happen." (from Tsh's husband)
"Travel is a huge part of my happiness. I am more who I am whenever I spend time traveling. And yet, it is coupled with staying home a lot. It's a combination of exploring the world and being at home - embracing where I am, getting to know my neighbors, spending time in my community and getting involved. It is a blend of being a citizen of the world and a citizen of my community."
"Plan a trip on the horizon -even if that means a day trip into the closest city where you live. If you haven't planned a trip in a long time, plan something where you actually leave your house and you go do something pretty different from what you normally do. You might want to explore some small town nearby that you have always wanted to do. You might check out a museum. You might try out a new restaurant, or you could actually get on a plane and or get on a website, see what cheap flights in your area are and go do something like that. I think so much of our life is routine, which is good, but we need to appreciate that routine whenever we shake it up a bit and interact with the outside world around us."
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Learn how to do the "I Don't Want ______" exercise to help you create a crystal clear vision of what you DO want. This is soooo important because, "Where the energy goes, the energy flows." AND "That which we focus on increases."
Growing up with dysfunction and a broken home, Salena Knight set out completely on her own at age 15, and by her early twenties owned several properties, and today she owns her own business. Salena shares some powerful thoughts on letting go of "victim thinking" and choosing the life you want. A must-listen episode!
Salena Knight is retail strategist who helps independent retailers to grow their business so they can have personal and financial freedom. She lives in Sydney Australia with her husband, daughter and rescue greyhound. In her free time she likes to build things, cook and spend time outdoors.
"Laugh at yourself because if you don't, someone else will laugh at you. Laugh at the things that happened because it hurts more when someone laughs at you, than when you laugh about what happened to yourself."
"Just don't take everything seriously; otherwise, you'll end up getting hurt by what other people think about you."
"All I wanted to do was to prove to the world that coming from a broken family doesn't mean that you have to be a broken person."
"You have the choice to make your life-whatever it is you want to be!"
"I was determined to finish my studies and be something better!"
"It does get to the point where you have to decide who your family is and who you want to hang around."
"You can choose your family, you can choose who you want to hang around with."
"If you hang around with people who don't want to take action, who are going to suck the life out of you and deplete you, then you aren't going to strive, you won't be able to achieve those goals."
"At the end of the day, you have to look after you."
Personal habit: "Constantly striving to succeed. A desire to just be better, bigger, more. I have to get outside every single day, get out with the dog at least once."
Easy meal: "Tacos. 5 batches and freeze them."
Salena's Favorite Books: "The Dip by Seth Godin"
Best advice received: "You can do it."
Family + Home + Laughter + Challenge
"Go and evaluate your relationships and see if you have those vampire people. Who energizes you and who depletes you? What can you do about the depleters?"
Are you striving to accomplish, achieve and accumulate? That path might not give you the happiness you crave. You'll get a whole lot closer if you take 10 minutes today and follow your feelings instead...
After trying the stay-at-home mom thing for a while, Dana realized she literally NEEDED to be an entrepreneur and thus began the Boss Mom movement. Learn how Dana balances motherhood and her online business with confidence and efficiency.
Dana Malstaff is a mother, author, business & content strategist, coach, podcaster, and blind spot reducer. Dana is the author of Boss Mom: The Ultimate Guide to Raising a Business & Nurturing Your Family Like a Pro, and the founder of Boss Mom. She serves Boss Moms who yearn for more time and less guilt when it comes to building their business and raising their family, by providing the tools they need to get more out of their content and business, without sacrificing their family goals.
"If you want to be a true influencer, then you should speak to create other influencers. Our influence is based around creating other influencers."
"Good mom for me means playfulness and attentiveness."
"So attentiveness to me means that I'm outwardly always trying to make sure I see what my kids need and trying to fulfill that in a way that makes sense to us in our family. "
"I think you should always try to be something more than a mom."
"You are so much more than one role, and we should strive to figure out what fulfills us outside of being a parent and outside of being a wife and outside of just being a business owner."
"It's a really important lesson for your kids to learn and it's a really important lesson for you to learn that your kids aren't the center of the world too, cause it's hard not to feel that way about them sometimes."
"When you're confident about your decisions, then guilt has no place in your life."
"The reason we feel guilty is because we're not sure we're doing the right thing."
"There are a lot of ways, and a lot of those ways compiled together equal the right way for you. It has to be about collecting the puzzle pieces and fitting them together and being confident about how you're fitting them together."
"If you don't wan't to feel guilty then continually assess every single day what your overall priorities are. What is it that you're trying to achieve, and what are the big things that have to be done? Don't do your business and family separately because those are two big whole buckets."
"What's important to us right now, tomorrow, over this next 30 days, or next year? What do we care about? Which one is more important? Sometimes my business wins, and sometimes my family wins. I don't feel bad about it."
Personal habit: "We eat, we hang out and play around. We engage with each other. We do some fun things with
my kids in the morning."
"The habit is the assessment of my priorities, looking at what has to get done, seeing if I can delegate that out and reminding myself that I'm losing money in my business by doing things myself all the time."
Easy meal: "Brown rice packets, chicken apple sausage, Thai peanut sauce, veggies."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "wine opener"
Best advice received: "Business is people. Life is people. If you can't learn how to show people how they are loved and valued and connect with people with empathy and compassion, then you're going to be left feeling alone and sad."
1. "Learn to recognize your happy moments."
2. "Know that others see you differently and that you're often too hard on yourself. Listen to people that tell you nice things."
3. "Recognize when you're not happy and take an assessment on what's not working and tweak it. Don't sit in unhappiness and fester there for a long time. It doesn't help anybody."
"I want you to take the next three days and time map what you do in your day, where you spend your time. At the end of those 3 days, look at that time mapping. Look at what you are doing, where you are spending your time, whether you are spending your time doing things that make you happy and fulfill you and that you think are actually helping you get to where you want to go in your life - and the amount of time you are spending doing things that do not fulfill you and actually empty your cup. Get really serious about finding the kind of support you need through this community, through other communities, you know, through your friends and your networks. To pull yourself more into the time you are spending, doing the things that fill you and that you love, and it all starts by assessing what you are doing right now."
Feeling BLAH? Tired? Discouraged? Afraid? Then you're out of alignment, probably because you're not sharing the gifts and talents you've been given. Learn how to figure out what you're good at and then take the challenge to jump in and get started.
Best-selling author Danielle LaPorte shares why it's critical to exercise self compassion, self love and self respect as you walk your spiritual path and how we can deepen our devotion and service in this world when we do so.
Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s Super Soul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” She is author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for Keeping It Real on Your Spiritual Path—From One Seeker to Another, The Fire Starter Sessions and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries. Millions of visitors go to DanielleLaPorte.com every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for spirituality.” Danielle is a speaker, a poet, and a painter. In her spare time she is trying to perfect kale chips and hanging out with friends and traveling. She lives in Vancouver, British Columbia with her favorite philosopher, her son.
"Your true nature is luminous."
"You're the guru. Few and external directions are good but the final say is with you."
"Happiness is feeling compassion for myself and compassion for other people."
"I don't spend a lot of time thinking what I could've done differently."
"This is all about being discerning, and getting to a place of real self love and self-respect."
"Deepen your devotion in everything you want."
"Self-love as a concept is really difficult for people to wrap their heads around."
"The term love, the idea, the notion of philosophy - it's so misused, overused, abused and misunderstood."
"Compassion is a lot easier for people to wrap their heads around. It's about loving what you want to criticize, and loving yourself when you feel you're most unlovable, and that is when self-love becomes the medicine."
"Boundaries are essential to being happy and vibrant and well."
"Find what works for you! If you don't like it find another way! Just experiment, just like food."
"You must have stillness in your life to be your most powerful self."
Personal habit: "I meditate everyday."
Easy meal: "Vegetarian tacos, cauliflower mash."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Vitamix"
Dana's Favorite Books: "To Kill a Mockingbird" and "The Creative Habit: Learn It and Use It for Life Book by Twyla Tharp" and "Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap...and Others Don't by Jim Collins"
Best advice received: "It's not my responsibility to make them feel good."
"My invitation would be to do a list for yourself of all the things that you're doing, to be better, to improve... and stop doing one of those things. Stop doing that one thing that isn't lighting you up, that isn't really getting you results of freedom and joy and vitality."
Imagine today is the last day of your life. You are standing on a mountain, looking bath at the winding path you walked throughout your days on this planet, and you notice your kids, your spouse, your loved ones standing there. What would they remember you for? What legacy are you leaving them?
Would they remember you as a person who is grumpy, frazzled and exhausted?
Or would they remember you as a vibrant, happy women who lived in alignment with her true purpose?
Think about your answer to that question and strive to live more in alignment with the legacy you WANT to leave.
And if you want additional help, Time Mastery for Women is open for enrollment. Time Mastery is an A-Z system that will help you create more time for the things you love, find your purpose and leave a legacy and enrollment ends on Friday, June 23 at 3 pm Central.
Class begins Monday, June 26th and if you're ready to change your life - in powerfully positive ways - Time Mastery for Women is the program for you.
Learn more here: www.timemasteryforwomen.com
Kate O’Brien and her husband Henare both grew up in toxic environments, leaving Kate saying, “I’ll never let a man treat me like that,” and Henare saying, “I’ll never let a woman treat me like that. Naturally fate brought them together and Kate has allowed their initially rocky 14 year relationship to help her become more self aware, more self compassionate and more accepting of her own humanity.
A visionary & global voice for bold leadership, transformation, playing it big & living from truth. Together with her husband Henare—they hold the space of Australasia's #1 Transformational Leadership Couple & produce the World’s Biggest Personal Development Summit, collaborating annually with over 100 of the greatest thought leaders of our generation - Jack Canfield, Gregg Braden, T. Harv Eker, Brendon Burchard, Marci Shimoff, Dr John Demartini, Dr Joe Dispenza, Michael Bernard Beckwith and many many more.
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"The risk is a game so I may as well just play it."
"We have a huge capacity for change, a huge capacity for love and a huge capacity to evolve."'
"It took my courage to skip stepping through that door on a moment to moment basis"
"The biggest thing that I've learned is that it's okay to feel like a total human being while you're also being extraordinary."
"When we go through changes, in that process we also have to allow space for the wobbles of those changes."
"We can just ride out all of the feelings that come with being human while we keep growing and expanding and remember to enjoy life."
"When we come back together we've got new growth, new eyes and energy to infuse that with our relationship."
"A lot of times in the world, we're trying to get rid of the things that aren't feeling good."
"[I like to remind] all people that it's okay to be human, it's okay to have all of these experiences, and it has absolutely zero reflection on how amazing you are or what you are up to in the world."
"Have compassion for ourselves, and we can usually shift out of that away more faster."
"We are the solution. It is not the strategy."
Personal habit: "Connecting into myself. And a cup of tea."
Easy meal: Smoothies, protein powder.
Favorite kitchen gadget: Blender.
Kate's Favorite Books: Spiritual Partnership: The Journey to Authentic Power by Gary Zukav
Best advice received: "Be yourself!"
"Passion +truth + commitment."
"After this [interview], please stop, close your computer or your phone. Go and walk into a bathroom and look into the mirror. And when you are looking into the mirror, just notice what's in your head. Do you feel really comfortable and friendly with that beautiful person in there? Or do you feel a bit awkward? Or do you feel resistant, judgmental. Do you feel guilty? Whatever comes up, if it doesn't feel loving, that is the place you go to, to bring the love. "
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After you grab that, take it to the next level and start establishing your own morning routine that will fill your cup for the day... increasing patience, productivity and boosting your mood in the process. You can't beat that trifecta of amazingness... and it all starts with taking time to take care of YOU. Get the SEVEN app and start doing the things that feel AMAZING!
In a society dominated by social media, many women long for deeper friendships. In this episode best friends and clinical psychologists Dr. Sanda Bernstein and Dr. Wendy Rapaport share some stories from their 40-year friendship and their book, Friendship Matters: Memoir, Life Lessons, Laughter. If you want to build and strengthen your friendships, you’ll love this episode of Vibrant Happy Women.
Sanda Bernstein, is a clinical psychologist. She has worked in both school districts and universities. Dr. Bernstein is trained in psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, and as a school psychologist. She has a private practice in which she sees adolescents and adults. Married with 2 grown children and 5 grandsons. She lives in Manhattan. Wendy Rapaport, is a clinical psychologist. She specializes in psychology-related facets of the health-care field, working with providers and patients. She is an adjunct professor at the Diabetes Research Institute, part of the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine and at the University of Maine Graduate School of Social Work. She has a private practice working with people coping with diabetes. She’s married and a stepmother to 2 grown children and have a granddaughter and a great grandson. She lives in Maine for part of the year and Florida for the rest of the year. They met at a lecture when they were college-aged and Sonda was pregnant and had to go to the bathroom and they chatted the whole time and never stopped talking. They just released a book together called Friendship Matters: Memoir, Life Lessons, Laughter.
"Do unto others as they would prefer you do unto them."
"We have to really know our friends, what would please them, because sometimes we find ourselves doing things that would please us, not them."
"If I'm not for myself, who will be for me? If I'm only for myself, what am I? If not now, when?"
"Do not procrastinate."
"I think women need to teach their men how listen to them better. I think that we need to talk better."
Personal habit: Wendy: "I like exercise." Sandy: "Not thinking that I know all the answers for myself but reaching out."
Easy meal: Sandy: Taking in from the local gourmet market where they have fresh salmon everyday and fresh turkey and fresh spinach pie.
Wendy: candy, cake and ice cream; take-out delivery.
Favorite kitchen gadget: Wendy: Telephone. Sandy: microwave
Best advice received: Sandy: "Don't let fear stop you." Wendy: "Honoring my independence."
Sandy: First is the importance of staying connected with the people I love. Then I want to stay engaged in activities that are meaningful to me. And the other is slowing down to stay appreciative of the world around me. Just appreciative of life.
Wendy: On a couch with a good enough poet - poetry
Sandy: "Read a book. Get a friend and deepen that friendship. Be more connected with your friend. I want to challenge everyone to connect better to a friend."
Wendy: "Do it consciously, because good manners come from practice and habit. I challenge you to make a good friend even better."
Do you have a relationship that seems more challenging than the others? Maybe it's with a parent or a child, or with a coworker or a neighbor. In this Happy Bit you'll learn 3 easy tips to help you improve that challenging relationship.
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The 3 easy tips to improve a challenging relationship:
Doing these things will help you brain shift into a place of positivity. Like attracts like. When you focus on the positive, your brain will find more of the positive. This happens because of your brain's Reticular Activating System, which filters information in a way to help you support what you believe. If you start to see the positive, your brain will give you more evidence of positivity. You have the power to make any relationship better. Empowering, right? You bet. That's what the Vibrant Happy Women movement is all about.
Want to hear even more about kindness? Listen to my interview with Shaunti Feldhahn.
In this episode Tammy Cannon shares her experiences of being a busy, overwhelmed mom of 3 kids under age 3 and how learning to ask for help made all the difference in her happiness. Now, as a mom of 3 teens, Tammy does a fantastic job balancing motherhood with her love of learning, her creativity, and her desire to help other women create a business doing something they love.
Tammy Cannon is the owner of Cannon Social Media helping creative business owners leverage online marketing. Tammy lives in Snohomish, WA with her husband and 3 teens. In her spare time Tammy loves cooking, gardening, and hiking.
"Dom Perignon: Come quickly, I am tasting the stars."
"Happy accidents can happen at anytime and just to be ready for them, to be excited and curious about life because you just never know when something amazing is going to happen."
"I am a really curious person. I love learning... And so I just love life and being curious and being hopeful for whatever is to come."
"I realized at that time, I didn't know how to ask for help. Being a mother of 3 young children was not something that was modeled for me. I mean, my parents were working and I am an only child, and things were very quiet and organized, and I didn't have any relatives around me, to just kind of see what that looked like until a friend of mine, she is a few years behind me and having kids but once she started having her babies, I watched her really organize her life and asked for help when she needed it. So she got on care.com and got herself a house cleaner and a really good baby sitter, but not just one but a couple when that one didn't meet the time. She'd catch her date night with her husband. And so, I was looking at that and said, 'Wow, I just didn't ask for help.' I didn't recognize that I just really needed the help, but I do not know if it was ego or just not having you know the modeling for myself. I just didn't really know how to go about it."
"So, I think that it is really important that we have the confidence to actually create the things that we love and maximize that time, but there is nothing wrong with profiting from that stuff and actually starting you know a small business, a side business, whatever it is to you, be yourself. You know, give that time back to yourself. I mean, we give our time to our kids and our family, we volunteer, we are out and about. But to really sit and be creative, or to start something new just for yourself is pretty awesome."
"Recently, I have discovered that I really need to set boundaries around myself, and the boundaries are going to help me get more respect for my family and myself, respect in myself. And also confidence to charge what I work and to follow through with those boundaries."
Personal habit: "I love learning. So, I read a lot of books, a lot of blog articles. I take a lot of online courses. I just really love learning new things and learning how to apply them in my own life and then teaching them to other people."
Easy meal: "Quinoa salad. Quinoa grains that you cook really simply and then you ad red wine vinegar, like a little vinaigrette to it. And then you can corn sometimes, red onions, you just add in your veggies and then let it sit in the refrigerator. It is great for potluck, for just a side salad, for everything."
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Coffee grinder"
Best advice received: "That is the way it should be. We go through life not recognizing that we just need to dream big and go after it."
"Really just sitting down and breaking bread with friends and family is super huge to me. Combine that with learning something new. And a sunny day. And I am the happiest girl in the world."
"I would love for your listeners to download that freebie (5 Steps to a Growth Mindset) and fill it out and over the next 30, 60 or 90 days, pick one big hairy goal, one over-arching goal that you are trying to achieve. Fill out the worksheet and let us know what happened. I think that you are going to be surprised at how the worksheet's going to help. And when you focus on just one thing, over that time frame, you are going to see big things happen."
5 Steps to a Growth Mindset (freebie from Tammy)
A listener recently asked, "Jen, what is your favorite quote, piece of advice, book, healthy meal and kitchen gadget? Also, I would love to know the standout personal development books you've read." I answer each of these questions in this Happy Bit.
Kirsten Tyrrel and her husband shifted from unemployed to making a 7-figure income in a matter of about 1 1/2 years. Learn how Kirsten was able to transform her life by changing her mindset and constantly focusing on education and goals.
Kirsten is a mom of three with a passion for having fun and raising her kids while building her businesses. She is the host of the Marvelous Mom's Club Podcast and she loves to have adventures and would rather talk to people more than anything else in the world! Kirsten lives in southern Utah.
"We were not put on this earth to stand still. "
"Something that I really had to understand that if we are not moving forward we're moving backward because life keeps moving. And it's impossible to stay where you are. If you are not moving forward, you are definitely moving backward."
"Failure is when you stop trying."
"If things come so easily, you don't appreciate them when they finally come."
- you can't control everything
- I learned that you can't do it all
- a little bit of patience and knowing that as much as I want stuff to happen, but as passionate as I am about making my dreams come true and about having a wonderful, adventurous life, I have to be patient with the ride and enjoy the ride as I am on it, instead of constantly looking forward to the outcome."
Personal habit: "I love having my 10 minutes of quiet time or my 15 minutes of quiet time where I am shut off from everything."
Easy meal: "Curry. We just grill up some chicken and some vegetables and throw the curry sauce on it and put some rice in the rice cooker on it. It's like the fastest, easiest dinner." Trader Joe's Yellow Curry.
Favorite kitchen gadget: "Kitchenaide"
Kristen's Favorite Books: "Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill"
Best advice received: "There is a million ways to make a million dollars, and if you try to do them all, you won't make any money."
"I am happiest when I pray, sleep, and play."
"Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Realize that every single step you make in the right direction is kind of a pay-it-forward for your future self. If you are willing to do things and push yourself out of your comfort zone everyday, that result is so much more than you came and calculate right now. So, just get out of your comfort zone, do something good for other people and do something good for yourself and the results are going to be more than you can even comprehend."